Form 1 is object which has one field - name

Form 2 is link  which has two fields I want to relate to two objects.  

An object can have MANY links.   So I'm trying to make a ONE to MANY to ONE relationship.

I want to be able to create links from either an object form or a link form. 

I want to be able to show reports (lists) of links 

I want object reports to also show the list of links they have

so:

I have set up the object form.  This has a subform for links.

I have set up the links form with two lookups for object.

I can add links from the object form's subform. 

But when I create them from the links form the relationship is lost. 

Any ideas?